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Forever fascinated by people and the things they do, I’ve been studying Psychology in one way or another for over twenty years. I want my writing to be a form of psychoeducation. This is a new term that I’m kicking around these days, it means helping people learn about themselves, by introducing cognitive science to them in a fun and interesting way.

The way I came to writing was through teaching. I’ve worked as a psychology professor for years, and have a deep love of getting my students excited about this topic…

I give myself a solid C+

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Last month I got very excited about doing a 30-day writing challenge. I saw it not only as an opportunity to get back into the writing habit but also as a way to overcome my perfectionism. Did I succeed? Kinda. Was it worth it? Absolutely.

I started out strong, writing and publishing every day for the first week. Then I missed a couple of days, went on and off for the next week, and fell off after that. All told, I published 12 pieces.

But, I knew I’d probably struggle, and hitting the 30…

Your ISFP shouldn’t keep you from getting a promotion

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The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (or the MBTI as it’s commonly called) is an outdated, poorly designed test that has little value. It’s not accurate or useful. There’s also new data emerging that personality tests could be culturally insensitive, sexist, and creating more bias in the workplace. I would argue that it’s dangerous for companies to continue using it. Don’t believe me? Want to cling to your ESTJ? Please read on.

1. The test was not created by experts

The MBTI was the hobby project of a home-schooled aristocrat and is based entirely on her opinions of people. Katherine Briggs read a book about personality by psychologist Carl Jung…

I felt like I was a part of something greater, and my smallness for the moment was not a problem.

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Our preferred way to receive love may be determined by moments in our childhood. Although we all may appreciate affirmative words, hugs, and gifts, our preference for one over the other is shaped by the most meaningful connections made in our youth. The way I feel most loved is when I get to spend quality time with the people I care about. This time doesn’t have to be complicated, I simply want a shared experience. …

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If you spend any time at all on the internet, you have a profile somewhere, a photo, maybe a short bio. You have an online self, maybe more than one. These selves have posts and comments on posts and people that interact with them.

Each of these is a little piece of you. Existing both now and at another time. There is a person in the future reacting to your post. There is a you of the past who is being spoken to right now.

You exist in other times. Our selves have splintered.

Time capsules in comments

Last year, in a reaction to…

And here’s hoping the community continues to grow!

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During the lockdown last year, alcohol sales in the U.S. increased by over 200%. Many folks were turning to whatever coping mechanisms they had and for a lot of people, that method of coping was drinking. Heavy alcohol use is linked to a number of health concerns, both physical and mental. Combine that with stress and trauma, and you have a potentially dangerous outcome.

The effects of pandemic drinking may not be known for a while. Maybe as people restart their lives, they may turn to healthier coping mechanisms, such as venting with friends or exercising. But the stress and…

If so, take a break and read this instead

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My fascination with Jaron Lanier started with a TED talk. Stumbling into his work is like discovering a treasure chest in your backyard. You wonder how you never knew about it and why no one else seems to. The reason for this is simple. Jaron Lanier doesn’t have any social media accounts and never has.

In this day and age, not having a social media presence of some sort can almost render you invisible to the rest of the world. Lanier only shows up on Google searches because of his words. Either through the books he’s written, interviews, or talks…

Its language is feeling

small brown bird sitting on a fencepost
small brown bird sitting on a fencepost
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Imagine you are sitting near an open window. You are lost in your thoughts, but then hear the song of a bird.

In that brief moment, the birdsong has broken through your thoughts, even though it had been entering your ears for a little while. It has been caught in the spotlight of your attention. And it rises from the soil of the subconscious into the flower of consciousness.

Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.

— Viktor E. Frankl

And how they’ve taken hold of the wellness industry

A woman’s face in water surrounded by orange slices
A woman’s face in water surrounded by orange slices
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I permanently deleted my Facebook account a year ago. The tipping point for me was the Covid conspiracy theories that my well-meaning friends were posting. I couldn’t take it, it was too upsetting seeing friends getting pulled into such a strange world.

I am a member of the so-called “Wellness Community.” What that means simply is that I help people get healthier in some way. I work with clients as a mental health coach and I teach meditation. Other people in this community might be yoga teachers, massage therapists, acupuncturists, sound healers, and the list goes on. Mostly, we are…

Amanda O’Bryan

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